A young husband has confessed that his entire marriage has been thrown into turmoil after his wife uncovered a secret he thought would never see the light of day.

The anonymous man, 27, wrote to the popular LTL Facebook relationships page after his wife gained access to his email account and scrolled all the way back to messages from than four years ago.

She found accounts he had created on escort websites when the couple was in a long-distance relationship.

‘She confronted me and I told her the truth. When I was 22, long-distance, drinking too much, and in a really bad place mentally, I hired an escort and got a hand job,’ he wrote.

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He stressed that the pair had never met in person at the time – she was living in Germany and they were only speaking online – but he also admitted that it didn’t make the situation any less painful for her now.

‘I’m not trying to excuse it. I know now how awful it was,’ he added.

The discovery was made worse when she then went through their old Discord messages from that period and realised she had told him the day before that her grandfather had cancer.

‘I genuinely didn’t remember that conversation. Seeing it now makes me feel disgusted with myself.’

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He said he never told her because he was ashamed and terrified of hurting her, and now that she’s found out this way, ‘it’s hurt her far ’.

The couple have since lived together for four years, recently celebrated their first wedding anniversary, and built a life together in Germany.

‘We’ve been genuinely happy – best friends, same values, same hobbies, same everything. She’s my family. I love her deeply and I can’t imagine my life without her,’ he said.

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Now, he says, she’s devastated.

‘She says she doesn’t know what she feels, whether she can trust me, or even if she still loves me. I completely understand why,’ he continued.

He insisted the immature 22-year-old version of himself is not the man she married.

‘I’ve grown so much – but I know that’s something I have to prove, not say,’ he wrote, adding that he wants to support her ‘without pressuring her’.

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‘I want to handle this the right way. I know I messed up.’

The internet, however, was sharply divided.

Some readers felt for the wife, saying there is nothing destabilising than realising the foundation of trust you built your relationship on might not be the whole truth.

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‘Finding out the level of safety and trust you felt with someone was built on a lie is far heartbreaking than a current betrayal,’ one said.

Others were adamant that the wife’s decision to dig years back into email and Discord messages was a red flag in itself.

‘The fact she is going through his emails tells me he is currently giving her reasons to be suspicious,’ another person wrote.

‘Most of us have things we don’t tell our partners that have zero relevance to life now. You don’t need to feel ashamed – she shouldn’t have gone digging,’ a man said.

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There were those who questioned whether the pair were even in a true relationship at the time of the incident.

‘You weren’t dating – you’d never even met. That’s not cheating. That’s just something you did before you were actually together,’ one insisted.

Some said the real issue may not be the timing but the nature of the act.

‘Being touched by someone hurts, sure. But finding out your partner once paid for sex – that’s what would bother me,’ a woman revealed.

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Others suggested her behaviour may have stemmed from her own insecurity.

‘People don’t deep dive into four years of emails unless they’re already convinced something is wrong.’

Relationship therapists say couples can survive a past betrayal revealed years later – but it depends entirely on the couple’s willingness to rebuild new trust, not revive the old version.

Experts warn that discovering a hidden mistake from the early days of a romance often hurts than a present-day slip-up, because people grieve the loss of the narrative they believed their love story was built on.

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The man, meanwhile, has asked readers who’ve rebuilt trust after a past betrayal to share how they did it.

‘What actually helped your partner feel safe again? What should I be doing right now to support her instead of making this worse?’

For now, he says, he’s doing the only thing he can – waiting, listening, and hoping their marriage survives a mistake he made before they had even met in person, but now threatens everything he cares about.